Our happiness is supposed to come from within our own hearts, why then is that happiness so difficult to achieve? Self esteem and self worth are at the heart of the major problems with self happiness. As out greatest judges, we take apart our minds and our lives and we analyze everything we do. Once we have criticized ourselves to the point of no return, the obscured images we think we are, often become the reality.

There are other times in our lives when a fear of the unknown can take hold of us and push us into the realm of self doubt. The fear of failing, not becoming what we once dreamed we would and not attaining success all wreak havoc on the minds eye. When reading this sort of thought, it may sound preposterous, but it is a very real situation for many women.

These self-doubts, self-esteem issues and fears of failure may be the simple three road blocks between your happiness and you. Look closely at your thoughts and beliefs, find out what you need to do to change the path of your life and be honest with yourself about the true causes of your unhappiness. A healthy self image may just be born out of this knowledge.

Self improvement can encompass your physical, emotional, and mental being. What area or areas do you want to improve and why do you want to improve those areas? The latter may seem like a silly question but it is important. For example, if you want to lose weight because you want to look like your favorite movie star, then you may find trouble reaching your goal as it may not be realistic and it may not provide enough motivation. However, if you want to lose a few pounds to reach a healthy weight because your doctor says you are at risk for heart disease; then that, coupled with the smile of your precious child whom would be lost without you, may be enough motivation to loose the pounds and run a marathon when you reach your goal weight!

The physical side of improvement can often be the least difficult of the three. Increasing your exercise levels and toning the body, even weight loss, will have such an effect that self esteem and thus happiness will instantly rise. A great looking body is at the heart of all self-esteem and without that feeling of healthiness and pride in your body, happiness will not follow.

The emotional aspects of happiness are a bit more difficult to change and require careful time and attention to the details of our past, present and future. Our lives are rooted in the emotional fractures that have created the psyche was now possess. Releasing the hold these fractures have on our present day lives is needed to fulfill our destination of happiness.

Mental change works hand in hand with emotional and requires time spent on lowering levels of stress and improving how we judge ourselves and our successes. Our minds how great strength in our lives and without a balanced mental state, the happiness we desire is something that will tantalize us constantly.

Life without balance and self-esteem will be life without happiness. The happiness we want and desire is rooted in our need to be better that we are right now and better than everyone else around us. Without a doubt, once we refocus our lives on the things that matter the most, our bodies, our hearts and our minds, the rest will fall into place an happiness will be achieved.